Regardless of your political choice for president, you can share in the sadness of Barack Obama's Grandmother passing away just a day before the election. Madelyn Payne Dunham, 86, died peacefully in her Honolulu home on Sunday night, after battling cancer. She chose to stay at home with care provided by a caregiver.
Hospice training teaches that emotionally, it is easier to go through the process of grieving when you are able to plan for the death and say goodbye ahead of time. Barack learned this, he said, when he did not make it to his Mother's side before she passed away. As he did not want that to happen again, he took time off from his historic campaign to visit his Grandmother a couple of weeks ago.
Still, death of a loved one is never convenient or easy, even with knowing ahead of time. While visiting France one summer, I went to dinner at a small country restaurant. The owners were a married couple who made the rounds to all the tables to chat with their guests. Upon learning that I worked in senior care, they told me to be sure to visit the bathroom before I left. There was a mural painted on the bathroom wall that included the 17th Century Nun's Prayer. I later had my Mother write it in calligraphy and framed it for my Senior Care Agency's office wall. Many caregivers who passed through the doors asked about it and requested a copy and now it is included as a resource on Caregiverlist.
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