Home is more than just a place, it’s a feeling of safety, comfort, and familiarity. That’s why it can be heartbreaking when a client with Alzheimer’s Disease or Dementia repeatedly asks to “go home” even when they’re already there. As a caregiver, this request may feel personal, frustrating, or even concerning if they attempt to leave. Understanding what’s behind these words can help you respond with empathy and patience while ensuring their well-being.
For individuals with dementia, the concept of “home” often represents a time or place where they felt secure and happy. Their surroundings may feel unfamiliar, even if they’ve lived there for years. This request may also stem from physical discomfort, anxiety, or confusion. Recognizing that their words reflect an emotional need rather than a literal desire to “go home” is key to responding effectively.
How to Respond with Care and Compassion?
Telling someone with dementia that they are already home may lead to frustration. Instead, acknowledge their feelings and offer reassurance: “I know you want to go home. You’re safe here, and I’m here with you.”
Identify Why? If your client keeps asking to go home, check for any unmet needs. Are they hungry? Cold? In need of the bathroom? Sometimes, addressing these simple concerns can alleviate their distress.
Rather than correcting them, engage them in a warm conversation about home. Ask gentle questions: “What do you remember about your home?” “Did you have a big backyard?” Reminiscing can bring them comfort and shift their focus.
